May 19 2009
Music Pays, Literally
Frankie had her final band concert of her high school years last week. It was cool that she and Lulu played together in symphonic band and for the all-district concert band last winter. Both had solos in the first song and I could not be more proud of both of them. Of course, they should be proud of themselves. I learned this at a work-related seminar a few years back. Parents tend to extend praise to their children causing the children to need this outward praise to feel good about their accomplishments. By changing our words we can teach our children to feel fulfilled from within. Instead of saying “I am proud of you”, why not say “You should be proud”. I am not saying you should not express pride in your children, but teach them to find it themselves without external need. Food for thought.
Yesterday Frankie’s band director called about a performance he would like her to attend. It requires a few piccolo solos and is a Memorial Day-type of event. It is not held on Memorial Day, but in June. And, it pays $25. Not a windfall, but not too shabby for doing something you love. Frankie should be proud of herself! 
